Funeral Colours



The most meaningful funeral captures the life and personality of the person,

which can be shown through the choice of music, poems and flowers and the

involvement of family and friends. Over a person’s life, they may have shared

their journey with many people; friendships have been made, love shared and

memories created. Adding personal touches to their funeral can involve all these

people who meant so much to them.

 

It may be the wish of the person who has died for mourners to wear bright

colours, or the family may ask to wear a specific colour or ribbon in support of a

charity.

Dave’s family wanted everyone to wear Manchester United colours. They

draped their grandad’s Manchester United scarf on his coffin and then sang

‘Glory Glory Man United’ at the end.

Man United Store - Manchester United Scarf-Red

Music for Funerals



Every ceremony is unique and personal, and music can be crucial in setting the

tone and feel. Music can bring people together in emotionally distressing times

and also give pointers back to the past, drawing on family traditions that have

been laid down and maintained over the years. Hymns and religious music are

sometimes chosen for this reason and it is always moving to see family and

friends stand and sing a favourite hymn together.

 

Songs that have the most impact are often those that were favourites of the

deceased because the lyrics and style reflected their life, loves and achievements.

Music can also celebrate special events in their lives such as a first dance song or

music chosen for their son’s wedding. The music that you choose can be purely

instrumental or with lyrics; it may be a live performance or pre-recorded. If your

loved one enjoyed walking on the moors, maybe you could listen to a recording of

birdsong?

 

To find out about your loved one’s taste in music, begin by talking to family and

friends and looking at their CD or record collection.

 

There could be a professional singer who will perform the music that has special

meaning for your family, from sacred music and favourite hymns to popular

songs. Everyone can sing together – maybe a song that strongly resonates with

the loved one’s life and legacy and, ideally, is familiar to the majority of those

present.

 

Bring Me Sunshine – Morecambe and Wise is a very popular song.

The lyrics can be printed in the order of service so that everyone can

follow the words as they sing together.

What Does a Celebrant Do?



The dictionary definition of a celebrant is: ‘a person who performs a rite’. This has

traditionally meant a vicar, minister or priest, with the ceremony taking place in a

church or other religious building. These days, we have more choices and the

importance of selecting the right celebrant for your loved one’s celebration of life

cannot be underestimated.

 

The celebrant is there to hold the ceremony together and make sure it runs

smoothly. They set the tone, cue the music and introduce the speakers. It is

preferable to have someone who is not emotionally attached to the deceased, can

speak well and will also deal with any unexpected occurrences. At a crematorium,

the celebrant also has to make sure the ceremony keeps to time.

 

This is the one occasion when your loved one’s life story is to be told, their

memories are honoured and their body is put to rest. The celebrant will meet the

family in advance and – through sensitive questioning and careful listening –

enable them to have their stories and feelings shared, before writing the ceremony

and reading it on the day. The family should choose someone they feel

comfortable with.

 

To find a celebrant, recommendations from friends are helpful and online

research is worth doing – always check the celebrant’s testimonials. It is entirely

your choice who leads the ceremony and, even though the funeral director may

recommend a celebrant, check they are experienced, fully trained and aligned to

your values and beliefs. Bear in mind that celebrants work with the funeral

directors and are not employed by them.

 

Celebrant fees will be listed under ‘prices on request’ on the funeral director’s

website. This means that celebrants can continue to offer a completely

personalised service at a cost that is appropriate to their creativity, experience

and local economic market.

Associate of the Guild of Cornish Celebrants



The Guild of Cornish Celebrants has been set up by Denise and Nicola to promote quality celebratory ceremonies which fully reflect the wishes and beliefs of the couples and families they work with. The aim of The Guild is to give an assurance of excellence – they are passionate about providing bespoke and unique ceremonies for any occasion. The hallmarks of a mediaeval ‘Guild’ were their professional ability and demonstrated accomplishment; they are redefining the ‘Guild’ concept for the 21st century, bringing a traditional quality standard to a new contemporary offering, ensuring ceremonies from the Guild always meet or exceed our clients’ expectations.

After a very successful meeting with Nicola and Denise from the Guild of Cornish Celebrants, I am pleased to announce that I am now an Associate of the Guild performing ceremonies in Devon for them.  I will continue to help you create and then conduct your unique and individual Ceremony where ever and whenever you wish.  I believe that your Ceremony is at the very heart of your day.

Together we will create meaningful memories, which will bind you closer and give joy to all the special people on your special day.

The Future of Funeral Ceremonies



As the rules surrounding Funerals change, you may be deciding that Direct cremation is the best option to protect your family.  But how do you celebrate the life of your loved one if you cannot hug, hold hands and grieve together?  When this pandemic is over and we emerge on the other side, then you can get together, hold meaningful ceremonies and give thanks that you were a part of their lives.

Ceremonies can then have no time constraints and can be held anywhere that is important to you.  Sunrise on a beach, a lunch time river boat trip, afternoon tea in a cliff top café, a lavish evening celebration in a hotel, sunset on Hay Tor, Dartmoor, in fact anywhere you choose.

For now, collect items for a Memory Table to display their achievements and hobbies, in fact, anything they were proud of.  Organise a slide show or video of their life accompanied by their favourite music.  If it is Rocking All Over the World wouldn’t that be great!  Share memories, stories and their jokes and make this Memorial a celebration of your loved ones life.

You can hold a Scattering of Ashes ceremony in their favourite place, mine would definitely involve a field of bluebells. Send their ashes up in a firework, plant them under their favourite tree, send the ashes off in a Viking Boat, all possible.

I will help you to create a ceremony that is a Celebration of your loved one’s life. My role is to offer bereaved families a Memorial ceremony that reflects the wishes, beliefs and values of the deceased and their family.  I can also include prayers, hymns and spiritual content.

Contact Sarah on 07870763304

Dragonfly Symbolism



How can we answer the many questions young children have about death? Looking for a meaningful way to explain to neighbourhood children the death of a five year old friend, Doris Stickney adapted the graceful fable about the waterbug that changed into a dragonfly.

Doris Stickney’s Water Bugs and Dragonflies offers a child’s perspective on what the nymphs think and talk about under water when they see others disappearing up the plant stems.

It’s a great place to start discussion on the concepts of death, transformation and the soul. It’s a beautiful story, perfectly pitched for young children during the stressful, trying times around bereavement.

It is why I chose the dragonfly as my logo as it symbolises change and transformation.

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